Hey there, I'm terribly
sorry I haven't posted in a while. I'm in this massive stressing situations and
I try everything I can to juggle all those things and I'm a massive fail. I'm sincerely
sorry about not been having time to write.
I mean every word of what I
wrote above, but it's also a good introduction to what I want to write about
today. I bet every single one of us has been in the situation yet where things
happened that weren't good. No matter if it was your fault, or the other person,
arguments happen, people get disappointed and there is for sure a lot of
frustration going on. I thought I could share with you the pieces of advice I gathered
considering that topic.
First of all if someone
does something that gets to you in a negative way, just tell them. There is no
use in being angry with someone and not telling them, they might not even have
realized that they did wrong. Having an open conversation never did no harm,
and if it leads to a proper argument then there is a reason for it. There are people
who get anger issues just because they are unable to talk about their feelings.
Trust me; you prefer having a fight over being angry for the next twenty years.
First leads to second,
before you actually go and announce a problem you should calm down first. I
remember about three month ago a friend of mine did something that seriously
pissed me off. It kind of included some other people who I knew wouldn't be
around for very long, so I decided to wait till they had left. When I finally
got to talk to that person I wasn’t madly angry anymore, but I still knew that
she had to apologize or at least admit that she kind of did the wrong thing. We
actually solved the whole thing like the true adults we (sometimes) are, but
when I imagine what could've gone wrong and how we could've be mad at each
other for a long time I'm happy how it ended up.
As a third point I have the
whole thing about apologies. I remember as a kid when I acted up my Mum would
accept my apology instantly, but she wouldn't make me feel like she forgave me
before I actually said the words. Of course she was not angry for long, but I
had to apologize first. Sometimes it felt, and it still does, like losing, as
if saying I'm sorry is the equivalent of saying I'm weak. It is not. Admitting
your own flaws shows that you are strong, but also that you are humble. It is strength
and a virtue.
Now there is an important
thing about apologies to be added. If you do it, then mean it. It shouldn't be
a psychological trick or something. Also absolutely distance your words from
what the other person might respond. Maybe he or she doesn't accept because you
screwed up big time, maybe they need time as forgiveness is a process that can
take a while. If that happens, deal with it, after all you just admitted having
been an idiot, no need to commit idiocy once more right now. On the other hand
we can assume that most of the time not only you did something wrong, but also
the other person. Just because you seem to be reasonable and you show sense,
doesn't determine that the other person does too. It would be great, yes, but
your apology is a one man show.
Oh and while we are at it, after admitting that you are a douchbag you could actually try to be less of a douchbag in the future, that would be very lovely and appreciated!
Let’s just say I got the
utmost surprising apology of my entire life today and it kind of got overshadowed
just hours after it. Still, if it was sincere then I appreciate it big time and
I’m glad it took place anyway. It shows at least certain things. Sorry, not
much of a specification here but some things are supposed to stay off the
internet.
Anyway, I can’t promise to
become a better blogger the next few weeks, but I’ll keep on trying my best.
Cheerio.
So yes, this post was inspired
by the fact that I watched 'V for Vendetta' yesterday and yes, I pretty much
loved it.
If you are not familiar
with the film, it's about a dystopian England, I guess about twenty years from
now, where they have curfews, censorship and even some kind of dictator. One
guy, he calls himself V, is trying to start a revolution within one year, as
the plot starts at the 5th of November and ends a year later on the same date.
You never see V's his face as he got burned terribly and hides behind a Guy Fawkes
mask*. V is all about ideas, and ideology, which he thinks are more important
than a single human being. I guess his mask serves not only to prevent people
from his scarred face, but also to make him less human less of an individual,
and therefore more accessible to the public. Everybody can look like V, if they
just put on that mask. By doing this, he encourages other people to step in his
role, to try to change the world too, as they can identify with him.
Ok, this is my own theory
and I tried not to spoil too much, so if you want to know more about the plot,
watch the movie. But trigger alert, it can be a little gory sometimes.
The thing I really wanted
to talk about was the whole dystopian theme of the story. I've seen a lot of
those movies and books lately, and to be honest I'm fascinated. Our world is in
a bad condition, but sometimes I seem to forget how bad it really is. For
example, the part of Switzerland where I live witnessed something
terrible about two weeks ago. We had our first massacre that I can remember. It
was a really surreal experience, I mean I always feel the pain of America when
something there goes wrong, but when it happens near you, you suddenly
understand what it means. I didn't even know anyone who was connected to the
incident, but still it touched me a lot. That, and many other things that are
happening, are the reason why I'm into dystopian stuff. It is possible after
all. Honestly, what happened to our world that such things are possible? How
can we make the world a better place, so that the ones coming after us do not
have to carry the burden of our mistakes?
In the film England was
having a war with the USA. England talked a lot about God and that they won
because it was God's will. If you know the 4th commandment, then you know that
you should not misuse the name of the Lord. I think it's wrong to do harm to
anyone, in the name of God. In the end, he is our judge, not we judge others. I
have gay friends, I have Muslim friends, and I have Atheist friends, because
frankly, I do believe in God, I do believe that he is the only one, but I do
not believe that I know it all. I might as well be wrong, maybe my Muslim
friend is right, but that's simply not what I believe. My faith does make me a
better person, a more loving and caring one, so I can't see a bad thing about
that, but I'd never dare to say that everybody else is living their lives the
wrong way. Faith won't let me.
On the other hand I'm not a
fan of forced religion. Faith is as personal as it can get and I'd rather have
it that way. When you force people to think something, all you will earn is
rebellion, and that's simply not how it should work.
To answer the second
question, all we can do is open up our eyes. One person alone will not be able
to shake it all up, but if one person can collaborate with some others, and
they can reach even more people, then we can make things better. Maybe it
starts with little things, like open up your eyes to the beauty that lies
around you instead of observing only the bad. Just remember; always look on the
bright side of life, to quote a famous song.
*And yes, the internet phenomenon
Anonymous seemed to be so inspired by that film that they use those masks as
well. The ideology of non-individuals changing the world seems to be spreading.
